BREAKING POINT

 

My column in Mindanao Daily and BusinessWeek Mindanao

BREAKING POINT

OPINION

By KLAUS DÖRING

 September 10, 2021

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I got my first breaking point as a German expatriate in the Philippines as a result of culture shocks. This was a long time ago and very much different from today's situation.  Meanwhile I have been living here smooth and sound for several years. 

 

Time changed. We all continue to suffer from the previous pandemic and the restrictions in our daily lives. Many friends, colleagues and neighbors I talked with are reaching the breaking point.

 

They are  experiencing mood changes. Indeed, the emotional effects of stress can have a serious impact on your day-to-day mood and mental health. Firstly, you may find that you’re feeling more irritated or pessimistic than usual. This mood change can then begin to affect your motivation to work, socialize with your loved ones or complete the things on your to-do list. If left unchecked, these feelings can threaten to completely overwhelm you, leaving you feeling apathetic, depressed, frustrated, panicky or trapped.

Many are having trouble sleeping. If you’re going through a stressful period in your life, you may have noticed just how difficult it can be to maintain a regular sleeping pattern. For instance, you may find it hard to fall or stay asleep at night. You may also have trouble getting up in the morning. A lack of proper sleep can leave you exhausted during the day which often leads to increased caffeine consumption which further exacerbates the issue. If left unmanaged, you may start feeling like you never have the energy for anything and soon reach an emotional breaking point.

A lot of people around me can’t seem to focus or concentrate properly. If you’re battling to concentrate, keep focused or remember certain things, this is a good indication that you’re feeling the effects of anxiety. These changes in thinking and memory (also known as “brain fog”) can occur when you’re trying to manage several stressful situations at once, which can make you confused and forgetful. These situations may include demanding jobs or emotionally-taxing tasks. Unregulated emotional exhaustion can really impact your attention, executive functioning (organizing and planning), and memory.
 

A lot of people are expressing  difficulty with personal relationships. You’ll often notice emotional exhaustion from prolonged stress manifesting in your relationship and your capacity to connect with your family on a meaningful emotional level. You may find yourself picking fights over small things, feeling angry at or unsatisfied with your partner or being overly judgemental. Tension in your close relationships can cause you to feel anxious, detached, and withdrawn which can make it difficult to ask for emotional support when you need it or be there for those you love.

A low self-esteem is being reported a lot these days. If lately you’ve found your mind overwhelmed with negative thoughts, you’ve probably also noticed their impact on how you view yourself. Perhaps you’re feeling more cynical and hopeless than usual? Or maybe you’ve lacked confidence in situations where you would normally speak up. At times, you may even have found yourself wondering if what you’re doing even matters anymore. It is important to recognize these changes. If left unchecked, these feelings may progress into symptoms of depression.

 

To stay in balance you need to turn these behaviors around. The smallest changes make a difference, but pay attention to changes that aren't so small, like getting enough sleep (without drugs), dealing with your anger and anxiety before they erupt, moving around during the day, making time to play, eating sensibly and simply being with yourself.

Especially during the pandemic, I learned that prevention is the best medicine. Reaching your breaking point means that you've crossed into the red zone, from which it's hard to return. You won't get to your red zone if you apply the habits of self-care I've just listed. The choice is really yours. Medical research has abundantly validated that being in balance is the healthiest way to live. Spend the next two weeks getting back into balance. You'll be amazed and pleased with the results. I adopted a certain "Bahala-na"-emotion especially when it comes to "bad news". I enjoy playing my piano and listening to wonderful relaxing music. I enjoy staying together with my family. I talked to God... .

‘Sara to seek reelection as Davao City mayor’

 

By: Emmanuel Tupas - The Philippine Star 

Mayor Christina Garcia said Davao City Mayor Sara Duterte-Carpio is firm on her decision not to run for president after her father, President Duterte announced his acceptance of PDP-Laban’s endorsement of him as its vice presidential bet in next year’s elections.

MANILA, Philippines — After announcing her decision not to run for president, Davao City Mayor Sara Duterte-Carpio has opted to seek reelection in next year’s polls, her spokesperson Mayor Christina Garcia-Frasco of Liloan, Cebu said Thursday.

Frasco said Carpio is firm on her decision not to run for president after her father, President Duterte announced his acceptance of PDP-Laban’s endorsement of him as its vice presidential bet in next year’s elections.

“The fact of the matter is Mayor Sara and the President made an agreement that only one Duterte will run (for national post) in 2022. And Mayor Sara is being true to her word,” Frasco said in an interview with “The Chiefs” on One News Thursday night.

Frasco said Carpio has set her sights on running for a third term as mayor of Davao.

“Since she is not running for a national position, then the local position is open for her and that is the position that she will be running for,” Frasco said.

On whether Carpio might have a change of heart if Duterte decides to back out, Frasco called such scenario hypothetical.

While Frasco is still hoping that Carpio would eventually lead the country, she said it may not be next year.

“I still personally harbor the hope that she will lead our country one day, perhaps not in 2022,”she said.

Which is your favorite church in the Philippines architecturally? And why?

 

Bjorn Von Possel

This is really, really hard. There are a bunch of beautiful churches all over the country and it’s easy to fill out a top ten just with an eye-test.

For this answer I’m going to go with two churches, not necessarily because they’re any better than the others, but because they just differ from the usual layout of the other churches.

My first is the Miag-ao church in Iloilo.

I mean, just look at that façade. Even from the distance of this far-away shot, you can still discern a bunch of detail in the stonework, Another thing I love about this church is the almost symmetry of the uneven bell towers.

Most Philippine churches only have a single bell-tower, and the fact that not only does Miag-ao have two, but being uneven as well, just shows a lot of character to me.

My other pick is the Monastery of the Holy Eucharist in Sibonga, Cebu.

It’s huuuuuuuuge.

How do Filipinos from urban areas view Filipinos from rural areas and vice versa?

 

By: Holly Benedicto

Middle-class brown Filipino from a developing nation

Bisaya. Lived in Northern/Southern Luzon and Northern/Southern Mindanao. Has travelled all over the Philippines, some Asian countries and the United States. Scientific background. Has worked in multi-cultural teams, most extensively with Americans. Knows three (3) Filipino dialects.

I have lived in cities in the Philippines all my life and am now in Metro Manila. We spent summers in a rural coastal town as a child.

Filipinos from rural areas are simple and to a degree, lucky, because they are near beaches that we city-dwellers, only dream of going to on occasion. I do wish I was like them, satisfied with the simple life. I have been used to the faster pace in the city and its conveniences that rural living does not appeal to me. I wish we had internet in those areas. Imagine working from home just a few steps away from the beach.

I wouldn’t say people in the rural areas are “less than”. They may not be as sharp or quick-witted in conversation compared to their city-educated peers, but they don’t work in corporate where it’s a necessity.

They may not be as ambitious or driven as the city counterparts because their city counterparts have bazillion bills to pay and need money, while they live with their parents in homes that their great grandparents put up (I’m referring to the rural middle-class to rich). They have little to no worries beyond what to eat and raising children. There is no house or car mortgage to worry about. And if they lose internet access, it’s fine. Their jobs don’t depend on it.

They may not be as “worldly”, or experienced in a variety of cultures like city-dwellers who get to have turkish, chinese, italian food delivered to them through an app. They may not have book collections, or Netflix that will help them think and understsnd western ideals. But they swim beaches or climb trees like no finicky city-dweller can. I have never climbed a tree, and am a poor swimmer.

City and rural dwellers were designed to fit the environment they live in. We can’t look at both from the lens of one and say one is superior. We all die at the end, just at different rates.

Bayanihan Sa Paaralan Build 2021 officially kicks-off in Davao de Oro

In the craggy mountains of Anitapan, Mabini, Davao de Oro lies Sitio Singapore, a small community situated in higher grounds, far from buzzling crowds, commercial buildings, and busy streets.

Reaching the sitio would take a lot of courage and will only be possible on feet, muddy pavements won’t even allow vehicles to get there, and raging tropical weather; the heat of the sun and cold showers of rain adds the challenge.

Living in a simple way, the sitio has an estimated number of 42 households, and locals rely mainly on farming abaca and coffee to support the needs of their families. Children in the community will have to travel from the sitio down to Brgy. Anitapan to access proper education in the public school during pre-pandemic times, and it is not an easy feat.

“Amung mga estudyante, kaniadtong wala pay pandemic, muadto pa pababa padulong sentro sa Anitapan para mueskwela. Kung musakay ug motor, mamasahe pa mi ug 150 pesos para maabot sa sentro.” said Terisita Paican.

 The call for a learning institution echoes in the vast environment of the sitio. The geographical location of the community seems to deplete the chance of putting up a school for them, but this doesn’t stop the spirit of bayanihan.

Dreams will do come true in no time as the Provincial Government of Davao de Oro in partnership with the Department of Education, Armed Forces of the Philippines, Philippine National Police, private partners, stakeholders, and volunteer employees of the provincial government officially started the ceremonial kick-off of the “Bayanihan sa Paraalan Build 2021” on September 4, 2021.

The “Bayanihan Sa Paaralan” has always been one of the major initiatives of the provincial government under the governance of Governor Jayvee Tyron L. Uy. Since 2019, the upcoming school building in Sitio Singapore will be the 7th established learning institution, a byproduct of dabawenyos’ volunteerism.

 “Ubay-ubay na nga kabukiran ang atuang natukuran ug eskwelahan. Karung tuiga aduna tay upat ka eskwelahan nga itukod tungod kay aduna pay mga communities sa kabukiran diin mubaba pa ang mga kabataan, mubyahe pa ug layo, para lang maka eskwela, why not atuang ibutang mismo sa komunidad ang eskwelahan. Mao na ang atuang purpose, dire sa Davao de Oro walay mabilin nga kabantan-onan ilabi na sa mga kabukiran.” said Governor Uy.

In more or less than a month, a One (1)-unit, two (2) classroom building will rise in the soils of the sitio, making quality education accessible for the children in the far-flung community.

It is never easy to get there, but nothing beats the bayanihan way. (Jasteen Abella, Information Division Davao de Oro, photo by Ronel Renz Alvarez)

WITH BEETHOVEN UNDER PALMS (XXX): The Last Chapter

Beginning with a decree of the German Foreign Office dated October 17, 2016 the Federal Republic of Germany called me as Honorary Consul for Mindanao. After the Philippine Government accepted my appointment through the Department of Foreign Affairs, then German Ambassador to the Philippines  Dr.Jan-Christian Gordon Kricke arrived in Davao City on June 20, 2017. I took my oath and served Filipino and German nationals until my retirement as consul in December 2020. My administrative district encompassed all of Mindanao except Sulu Archipelo, Tawi-Tawi, and Basilan. It was a challenging job especially acting as notary public: issuing Legal Capacities to Contract Marriage in the Philippines or Philippine Driver's Licenses, urn/cadaver  certificates, certified true copies of German and Philippine documents, consultations - the list would all be long. 

[Members of the Diplomatic Corps:

Hon. Consul Joji Ilagan-Bian (Bangladesh), Consul Yosiaki Miwa (Japan), Acting Consul General Mohd Jafri Bin Mohd Sharif (Malaysia), Asec. Romeo Montenegro (MINDA), Hon. Consul Maria Lourdes Garcia-Monteverde (Mexico), Madame Elisabeth Napitupulu, Atty. Zuleika Lopez (City Administrator), Hon. Consul Peter Faistauer (Austria), Consul General Berlian Napitupulu (Indonesia), Asec Robert Ferrer (DFA for Mindanao), Consul General Li Lin (China), Hon. Consul Edgar Ang (South Korea) and Hon. Consul Klaus Doring (Germany)]

It was one of the greatest honors that I, as a German national in the Philippines, especially in Mindanao, received. Being a member of the diplomatic family opened many new opportunities for me. Retirement means very often the end of everything. The last chapter in life. Not for me. 

After leaving the diplomatic stage and the University of Southeastern Philippines, suddenly other interesting tasks didn't make my "old age" seem boring.

Teaching (again!) German at Ateneo de Davao University, Language Center and a lot of translation works - my home office keeps on booming. One of my hobbies, exploring German-Philippine relations and the differences between both countries' culture and tradition and writing about, takes up most of my free time now. And another hobby that I have neglected very often recently is to be revived: Classical Music. Myself at the piano or some other audio carrier... .

The last chapter - here. But I pray to our good  and Almighty Lord, that He might allow me some more chapters on earth - together with my wife Rossana, to whom I dedicate this 30-part biography and together with our awesome Philippine family, to whom I owe a lot if not everything!

How would Filipinos react if I spoke to them in Filipino (Tagalog)?

 

By: Bisaya

Barok and Takya Blog | Bisaya Podcast

Most Filipinos would be happy to hear you speak Filipino (Tagalog) and might even switch to English for your convenience. Some might not understand the language and will respond with a smile on their face (I don't know); don't take it the wrong way. We're just reticent. It is a sign of great respect and cares that you choose to address us in our native tongue rather than force us into learning yours.

Filipinos are generally more flattered than insulted by an offer to try their native language, so it should be relatively easy as long as you pronounce the unfamiliar words accurately through adequate study beforehand. You can also say thank you or sorry after addressing someone in Tagalog, as words exist in the language.

If you want to speak Filipino (Tagalog), there is a pretty good chance your interlocutor will be highly receptive and generally pleased to hear it. However, some people might not understand what you're saying. So again, it's a sign of care and respect that you've chosen to address them in their native tongue rather than force them into learning yours.

4 dogs beheaded - P15,000 reward up for info on person responsible

 

September 06, 2021

POLICE personnel of the Island Garden City of Samal (Igacos) have launched a manhunt against the person responsible for beheading four puppies in Barangay San Miguel and a P15,000 reward was put up for those who could help identify the perpetrator.

The dogs were found beheaded in a lot in Barangay San Miguel on September 4. It was immediately reported to barangay officials, and it was found out that the beheading happened on September 3.

Initial investigation revealed that the owner of the dogs ordered the puppies to be thrown as they were infested with lice, but the owner denied doing the beheading.

San Miguel Barangay Captain Dionn Phillip Heramil has offered P5,000 and a certain Sir Jimmy offered P10,000 as reward for those who could identify the person responsible for the crime.

“Kung kinsay makatodlo sa pag patay sa 4 ka itoy ug pag potol sa mga ulo niini adunay madawat nga reward worth P5,000 gikan sa atong maabtikon nga kapitan Dionn Phillip Heramil ug P10,000 gikan kay Sir Jimmy, nag total sa kantidad nga P15,000,” said Barangay San Miguel Igacos in a Facebook post.

“Ayaw kamo kabalaka kay magpa bilin confidential ang inyong identity.

Kung aduna kamu impormasyon palihog e contact atong Kapitan Dionn Phillip Heramil – 09071515906,” it added.

Bantay Hayop Davao, meanwhile, condemned the incident and vowed to help in the investigation.

“The viral photos of 4 puppies around 2 to 3 months old that started yesterday was a shocking sight, painful, unacceptable and unforgivable. Karumal-dumal. Isang kawalang respeto at kawalang dangal. Masahol pa sa isang halimaw ang gumawa nito at sa tingin namin ay hindi ito normal. A person capable of doing such a psychopathic act and display it for others to see is a work of a criminal that cannot be simply allowed on the loose,” it said in a Facebook post. (LMY)

Why do most Filipinos believe in conspiracy theories?

 

By: Dayang C Marikit

I would say that a sizable amount of Filipinos do believe in conspiracy theories, but definitely not "most"… generally speaking "Philippine society" as a whole would consider you to be a "weirdo" for believing in such things, you would probably even get "bashed".

Filipinos don't have the same type of distrust, animosity and paranoia against "The Establishment", like that of what we see in the USA and other Western nations.

• In fact, in the USA a lot of people think that the pandemic is just a "hoax", which causes them to not exercise "proper caution", which then spreads the virus even more.
• Meanwhile, in the Philippines the vast majority of the population do believe in the news reports and generally follow government guidelines to slow the spread on the virus. No one here protests against the tight restrictions and no one here protests against the compulsory wearing of masks, etc etc etc.

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Now, to answer your question, generally speaking people may believe in conspiracy theories either to feel like they are still in "control" of the situation, (this is generally the case in the USA)… or if they aren't well educated, in other words "gullible", (this is generally the case in a lot of developing countries, including the Philippines).

• The main difference is that Americans who believe in conspiracy theories tend to make elaborate stories to justify why they believe in the conspiracy, but Filipinos who believe in conspiracy theories often don't have an elaborate reason as to why they believe in them… they probably just saw it on Facebook and automatically believe what they saw.

Don't get me wrong, when it comes down to it, I don't think that one is "better" than the other… but I find that those who create elaborate stories to justify their beliefs to be much more "annoying" than those who are just "gullible".

INNER STRUGGLES

 My column in Mindanao Daily News and BusinessWeek Mindanao

OPINION

By KLAUS DORING

 September 4, 2021

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Let's not fool ourselves: The pandemic has completely turned our entire lives upside down. Private, social and in  business. Inner struggles for many of us are the bitter result. An inner struggle reflects an unresolved emotional conflict, an inner knot that has been cystic and that must be clarified in order to have peace and well-being. What is the result of an internal struggle? Frustration, frequent changes in mood and psychological fatigue (it is tiring to load with a frequent question) and anger. But it is also a stimulus to deepen the knowledge of oneself.

 

In essence, an internal fight shows an internal opposition, an opposition of contrary forces that steal the inner tranquility, serenity and peace. Therefore, in a situation like this it is very important to hear those sentiments to put ideas in order.

 

A person may also experience an inner struggle when there is an internal debate between duty and the crave order. How many times, you want to give up? Ask yourself?  Similarly, it is also possible to experience this internal struggle into an existential crisis.

 

There are personal disagreements in the daily routine, as shown by the difficulties of coexistence: partner discussions, differences in criteria with friends, anger of family... . However, it is important to point out that the relationship that a person has with others, part of the bond that has with itself beyond individuality. Every human being establishes a constant relationship with their own identity. In this way, a process of self-knowledge is established. The inner world of a human being is very complex, marked by duality and constant struggles. In other words, a person can feel an inner struggle between reason and heart.

 

Inner conflicts typically begin with statements such as "I am sick of, I always or I am so tired of" and it is not unusual for them to be accompanied by some jaw clenching, an occasional rant or stomp of the foot.  Everyone has a unique problem of their own, an issue that follows them throughout life and never goes away. You discover it early and go on to struggle with it for the rest of your life, almost until it eventually becomes an old enemy that you lose the will to fight or hate anymore.

 

There are environments that are especially suitable to reflect calmly on oneself. For example, take a stroll through a green area and walk. Or, I talk with family members. They are experiencing the same struggles - young and old. Or, I  pray and talk to God. 

 

Fortunately analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts. Life itself still remains a very effective therapist. Allow me to quote  F. Scott Fitzgerald:  "I hope you live a life you're proud of, and, if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over!"

Yes, hopefully the struggle we're in today is developing the strength we need for tomorrow. Stay safe and healthy everyone.