More than love: What women truly deserve

BY GODDES HOPE O. LIBIRAN

Apr 13, 2025 00:02 AM

  

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THERE'S HOPE!

 

 

In the Philippines, we've grown up on stories that tell us love conquers all. From teleseryes to timeless kundimans, we are taught that no matter the hardship, as long as there's love, everything else will fall into place.

“Love Will Keep Us Alive” may be a karaoke favorite, but it has also become an unspoken mantra in our culture — tender and poetic, yes, but one that can quietly turn into a dangerous illusion when taken as absolute truth.   

Just to be clear, love is beautiful. It is a gift. But love alone should not be a woman’s only pursuit, nor should it be her ultimate salvation. The truth is, women do not need romance to survive or to succeed. What we need and rightfully deserve are respect, emotional stability, peace of mind, and a deep sense of security, the kind that nurtures, not negotiates, our well-being. 

Time and again, we’ve seen women rise, not because of romantic love, but because they were empowered by environments that cultivated their potential and honored their boundaries.

Romantic love, while meaningful, should never be the currency with which we measure our worth. It must not become the reason we remain in spaces that diminish us, drain us, or make us doubt ourselves.

We should never settle for a kind of love that brings more questions than answers, more tears than sleep, or more doubt than assurance. No woman should have to shrink her dreams or dim her brilliance just to grasp on to a love that barely holds her together.

In this 21st century, women are building careers, leading movements, heading households, and changing communities. We are no longer the damsels waiting in towers but architects of our own castles. And yet, amid all these advances, the mindset of some still clings to the old idea that a woman’s fulfillment hinges on finding and keeping a man.

But here's the truth: women can be whole on their own. A good partner complements us, but we are not broken without one.

And just as women are evolving, men must keep up and change too. 

While we now live in a world that champions equality, let us not bury the good values that once defined honorable men. Chivalry, contrary to popular belief, is not dead. That should not be the case.

Respectfulness, gallantry, and principled leadership are not outdated ideals but timeless virtues. In a world striving for equality, these traits should not fade but evolve. Modern manhood is not defined by dominance, but by the ability to lead with humility, protect with honor, and respect women as equals in every sense.

Strength in women does not excuse weakness in men. If anything, it calls them to rise even higher—to be steady anchors, not passive bystanders.

Biblically speaking, men are called to be providers, not just financially, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. A man who leads with love, supports with strength, and uplifts with humility is a blessing. And when he sees a woman as his equal, not a subordinate, that is real partnership.

To the women, you are not “too much” for wanting more than love. You are not selfish for choosing peace over chaos, ambition over dependency, or self-worth over fleeting affection.

To the men, be the kind of partner who does not dim a woman’s light but helps her shine even brighter. Provide not just financial support but a sense of emotional, mental, and spiritual safety. Lead not with ego, but with wisdom and grace.

In the end, let us not raise our daughters to chase fairy tales, nor our sons to be princes who save. Instead, raise a generation that builds together, grounded in love, but more importantly, in respect, stability, and shared strength.

Because love doesn’t just keep us alive, dignity does too. There is Hope.

Women uplifting women

THERE'S HOPE!

BY GODDES HOPE O. LIBIRAN

Nov 3, 2024 06:56 AM 

There’s an almost indescribable joy in championing the cause of women. The pursuit instills a deep sense of purpose, inspiring us to create lasting, meaningful change that reaches far beyond individual efforts and transforms society as a whole.

Being part of something greater, witnessing how collective actions transform lives, is both humbling and invigorating.

Every step forward, however incremental, builds upon the last, proving that even the smallest victories matter as they accumulate and drive us toward real progress.

A few days ago, the Philippines proudly hosted its first ministerial-level International Conference on Women, Peace, and Security (ICWPS), a historic event that underscored the nation’s commitment to strengthening women’s roles in peacebuilding and security.

Among the leading figures in this endeavor is Department of Budget and Management (DBM) Secretary Amenah “Mina” F. Pangandaman, a prominent advocate for the Women, Peace, and Security (WPS) agenda in our country. 

As the first female Muslim Budget Secretary of the Philippines, Sec. Mina brings a unique and powerful perspective to her roles. The diverse responsibilities she holds, from co-chair of the Intergovernmental Relations Body (IGRB) to chairperson of the Open Government Partnership-Philippines, and the youngest and only woman member of the Philippine economic team, reflect her passion, intellect, competency, and far-reaching influence.

Sec. Mina’s efforts along with the ICWPS itself highlight a crucial point: empowering women transcends addressing immediate needs. It builds a broader framework where women’s voices, contributions, and leadership are integral to peace and security everywhere.

She goes above and beyond her responsibilities, building genuine connections, fostering resilience, and guiding the Philippines toward a future where every woman feels supported and empowered.

Embracing this vision, institutions like Spark! Philippines are leading by example, showing what it means to lift one another up. Inspired by Sec. Mina, the non-profit organization is embarking on a heartfelt mission to distribute 10,000 reusable sanitary napkins to underserved communities across Mindanao.

This project not only aims to meet basic needs but promotes dignity, sustainability, and health for thousands of women.

In partnership with the US and Swiss Embassies in the Philippines, this initiative illustrates the strength of cooperation in driving positive change. 

These reusable napkins are also crafted by incarcerated women, Persons Deprived of Liberty (PDLs) in Quezon City Women’s Jail. The program supports women in the community while also empowering those within the jail, offering them purpose and a way to contribute positively despite their confinement.

It’s amazing to reflect on how this journey began less than a year ago when Sec. Mina and I attended the 68th Session of the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women in New York. Back then, Spark! Philippines was limited to operations within Metro Manila.

I remember during Sec. Mina’s first meeting with Spark! PH two months ago, she told them, “Huwag naman ninyong kalimutan ang Mindanao.”

Today, Secretary Mina’s vision has been realized, with Spark! Philippines expanding its reach nationwide, extending as far as Mindanao. She never fails to include the Bangsamoro Bangsamoro Autonomous Region in Muslim Mindanao (BARMM).

Upon hearing the good news, I messaged her, "Congratulations, Ma’am! Ikaw na ikaw 'yan! [That’s so you]." True to her nature, Sec. Mina responded with her usual humility, shifting praise to the work, the team, everyone involved, and even the circumstance— never herself. Her words encouraged me to keep striving toward our shared goals, revealing a rare quality in a leader: the ability to step back and lift others up.

Her modesty reflects a true love for service, motivating us all to aim higher and give more. Through her, we’re reminded that while recognition is nice, it’s the work itself that truly counts.

Her strong focus on collaboration and service aligns seamlessly with the goals of the recently concluded International Conference on Women, Peace, and Security (ICWPS). With its theme, “Forging Collaboration and Convergence for Advancing Women, Peace, and Security,” the conference directly reflects Sec. Mina’s advocacy—and, more broadly, the aspiration of the Philippine government—to empower and uplift women not only in peacebuilding but in all aspects of leadership, community development, and societal progress.

Empowerment doesn’t happen in isolation; it thrives when women unite, sharing knowledge, resources, and a unified drive to uplift one another. By joining forces across nations, organizations, and communities, we forge a powerful path toward lasting change.

It fills me with great pride to be part of this powerful network of women advocates, each driven by a shared vision of equality, peace, and resilience. With Sec. Mina leading the charge, I am inspired to believe that together, we can overcome any obstacle and achieve remarkable change.

Through all of this, I’m reminded of the immense power women hold when they support one another. Challenges persist, inequalities, systemic barriers, and social stigmas, but together, we are unstoppable.

Every small feat matters, and sometimes, it’s those smaller wins that feel the most fulfilling because they build the foundation for greater achievements. When women uplift other women, we lay the groundwork upon which future generations can stand taller and stronger.

True progress is not just about policies and programs but about unity, compassion, and dedication. Empowered women empower others, creating a ripple effect of kindness and support that becomes our greatest legacy.

Let’s continue working side by side, inspired by leaders like Sec. Mina, who show us that humility, resilience, and collaboration are the pillars of real, transformative change. 
We will build a brighter tomorrow where every woman knows she has the power not only to rise but to help others soar alongside her.

There is Hope!

Harmonies of faith: The inaugural Asia Gospel Christian Music Awards

BY GODDES HOPE O. LIBIRAN

Sep 26, 2024 00:04 AM

  

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The power of music is something that goes beyond words — it reaches into the depths of our hearts and souls. And when it comes to Gospel music, it touches us in ways that are truly profound. While worldly songs may inspire or entertain us, Gospel music does so much more. It heals, restores, and draws us closer to the Almighty. That’s what makes the Asia Gospel Christian Music Awards (AGCMAs) so special to me. As a Christian who grew up immersed in “Papuri” songs and Gospel music, this event isn’t just a celebration, but a reflection of the music that has shaped my spiritual journey.

On Oct. 26, 2024, the Philippines will have the honor of hosting the first-ever AGCMAs at the New Frontier Theater. For the first time in Asia, Gospel musicians from all over the continent will come together to celebrate music that glorifies God, strengthens our faith, and brings people together in worship. I can’t think of anything more beautiful. 

Personally, I can’t help but think of songs like “Dakilang Katapatan,” which have brought me, and so many others, to tears in worship. This particular song has always held a special place in my heart. One of my favorite lyrics goes, “Sa bawat pighati, tagumpay man ay naroon. Daluyan ng pag-asa kung kailanga’y hinahon. Pag-ibig mo’y alay sa’kin noon hanggang ngayon…” These words capture the essence of God’s presence in both sorrow and triumph, constantly offering hope and peace. His love is not fleeting; it’s a steadfast gift that has carried us from the past and continues to sustain us today. Each time I hear or sing these lines, I am overwhelmed by the reminder of God’s unwavering faithfulness. It never fails to give me goosebumps, bring me to tears, and fill me with awe and gratitude for His boundless love. This is the kind of transformative power the AGCMAs aims to celebrate: music that touches lives and brings us closer to God.

This event is presented by Noble Life, an organization committed to promoting the Gospel through music. Their mission aligns with the AGCMAs’ purpose: to recognize those who have devoted their lives to spreading the Good News through their musical talents.

The AGCMAs will feature musicians from across Asia, including Hong Kong, Indonesia, Japan, Malaysia, Singapore, South Korea, Taiwan, and, of course, the Philippines. We’ll have performances from renowned artists like Gary Valenciano, Kuh Ledesma, and Victory Worship, as well as international acts like Isaac Ong, Luke Munns, Seo Keun Young, and Sid Mohede. Together, they’ll fill the theater with songs that honor God and celebrate His presence.

These artists aren’t just performers, they’re vessels through which the Holy Spirit moves. Gospel music is more than just entertainment. It’s an offering of praise, an invitation to worship, and a way to deepen our faith. It transcends languages and cultures, making it a universal call to devotion.

The open invitation to experience the power of Gospel music firsthand is an opportunity to commemorate those who have shared the Good News through music, and to feel a renewed sense of community, faith, and purpose. Whether you’re someone who is brought to tears by songs like “Dakilang Katapatan,” or you’re simply looking for an evening filled with worship and inspiration, the AGCMAs is for you.

There’s something truly mysterious and powerful about Gospel music. It stirs the soul in ways that go beyond melody — it speaks directly to the heart. The lyrics tell stories of hope, grace, and redemption, encouraging us to reflect, renew, and reconnect with our faith. Gospel music lifts the spirit, reminding us that even in our darkest moments, God is always there, drawing us closer to Him.

Music feeds the soul, but Gospel music nourishes the spirit. It’s an echo of God’s eternal love. So, mark your calendars for the last Saturday of October, and be sure to reserve your seats. Let this beautiful occasion remind us all of the true essence of worship and the enduring strength that Gospel music brings into our lives.

Public service… is it for you?

THERE'S HOPE!

BY GODDES HOPE O. LIBIRAN

Jun 16, 2024 00:22 AM

  

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GUEST COLUMNIST

Public service is often romanticized as a noble endeavor, a calling for the greater good. The reality of being a public servant, however, is far from simple or ceremonial. 

Government work entails navigating complex bureaucratic processes, balancing diverse stakeholder interests, and enduring intense public scrutiny, all while striving to deliver essential services with limited resources.

In the case of the Department of Budget and Management (DBM), managing the budget while attempting to address the diverse and growing needs of various sectors is a constant challenge. We likewise have to deal with economic challenges, inflation, and other macroeconomic factors that can affect revenue collection and budget planning. So many factors are at play.

It is especially challenging now that it is the budget season, a critical time for the Philippine government, when we set the financial framework for the country's programs and initiatives, influencing economic development and public service delivery.

Two weeks ago, I participated in a series of Executive Review Board (ERB) meetings, where I witnessed the dedication and resilience of the top brass of DBM. For context, the ERB consists of the DBM leadership, headed by Secretary Amenah “Mina” F. Pangandaman. It evaluates all proposals and funding amounts from agencies, for inclusion in the proposed National Expenditure Program (NEP). The finalized NEP is then presented to the President and the Cabinet, and, once approved, to Congress for scrutiny. 

The late nights, the tireless efforts, and the unwavering commitment to ensuring that every budget allocation is meticulously reviewed and justified—all these are part and parcel of the process. I salute the individuals who sacrifice a great deal of time and energy to guarantee that every session is productive and every decision is made with the nation’s best interests in mind.

One of the most demanding aspects of our role at the DBM is the delicate balancing act we must perform. We have to serve the interests of both the public and private sectors, a responsibility that requires not only a keen understanding of economic principles but also a deep empathy for the needs and aspirations of the people.

On one hand, we must ensure that public funds are allocated efficiently and effectively, supporting essential services such as healthcare, education, and infrastructure. These allocations directly impact the quality of life of Filipinos and are crucial for the nation's development.

On the other hand, we must consider the needs of the private sector, which drives economic growth and creates employment opportunities. Striking the right balance between these often-competing interests is no easy feat and requires a nuanced approach that takes into account the broader economic landscape and the long-term implications of our decisions.

Beyond DBM, and I have said this often, public service is not for the weak-kneed and craven. It is a thankless job that tests your strength and deprives you of sleep. There are times when you will experience spending days away from family, and yet, in return, you get to be the public’s object of ridicule, hate, and mockery. But, still, you have to always work hard.

Serving the public involves a level of dedication and resilience that few other professions require. The scrutiny we face, both from the public and from various stakeholders, can be intense. Further, the pressure to deliver results promptly, often with limited resources, can be overbearing.

Reflecting on the DBM once more, the duty of managing the nation’s budget is enormous, with high stakes. Any misstep can have far-reaching consequences, affecting millions of lives and the country’s economic stability. This is why I am incredibly impressed by how Sec. Mina handles these complexities with remarkable skill.

Of course, despite these tribulations, there is a profound sense of fulfillment in public service. The knowledge that our work has the potential to create positive change and improve the lives of our fellow citizens is great motivation. It is this sense of purpose that keeps us going, even when the going gets tough.

Public service may be an unforgiving and often unappreciated work, but it remains an essential and honorable pursuit. For those who choose this path, the merits are not measured in accolades or financial gain but in the lasting impact of their work on the nation and the Filipinos.

There is hope!