Rabiya Mateo is back after three months in the US

by Jane Kingsu-Cheng, Manila Bulletin

Our very own Miss Universe Philippines 2020 Rabiya Mateo is home, and the intimate homecoming was held today, July 14, at Hilton Manila.

“Finally, after three months of being in the US, I can finally say that I am home,” she starts off her speech. “To everybody who gave their time just to see me and welcome me home, maraming salamat po (thank you very much).”

“Being a representative during this time in the pandemic, it’s never easy. But I realized iba talaga pag ang Pilipino ang nagsuporta, kaya nagpapasalamat ako (It’s really different if Filipinos support you, that’s why I am grateful).” She also gave special thanks to former Miss Universe Philippines Shamcey Supsup, “Mama J” or Jonas Gaffud of Miss Philippines Inc., and to everyone who is part of the organization. “Maraming salamat sa suporta at sa paniniawala nyo sa amin (Thank you very much for the support and for believing in me). It wouldn’t be possible if not for the love and support that you have given me.”

Shamcey Supsup also went on stage to talk about the upcoming Miss Universe Philippines competition, but she thanked all their supporters first, “This homecoming press conference is a small gathering of those who have been supportive of the Miss Philippines organization from the very start. We certainly couldn’t have done this without your support. Your dedication to pageantry has uplifted the lives of many young women all over the country.”

She then moves on to talk about the upcoming Miss Universe Philippines (MUPh) competiton, “I am very happy to announce that this year’s theme for the MUPH 2021 pageant would be ‘Inspire you.’ A Miss Universe Philippines is a phenomenal woman because she has the ability to inspire others.” And this year’s three pillars are roots, transformation, and charity.

“Inspired by your roots, the MUPh’s associated partners’ program ensures that as many cities and provinces throughout the country are well represented. Join us as we take a deep dive into the interesting and moving parts of our cultures revealed to the eyes of our contestants. Inspiring transformations with the world renowned experience of the key members of the Miss Universe organizations in bringing out the best in a Filipina. The goal is to find their unique best self that should also move other people to seek their best selves. And lastly, inspiring charity. It doesn’t matter whether its big or small. Doing something good that can be sustainable should also inspire others to do the same.”

Good luck to this year’s contestants!

So much the better!

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OPINION

By KLAUS DORING

 January 10, 2020

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WE could spend all year living healthier, more productive lives, so why do we only decide to make the change at the start of the year? Why do we all make (and break) New Year resolutions?

Many of us will start 2020 with resolutions – to get fit, learn a new skill, eat differently. If we really want to do these things, why did we wait until an arbitrary date which marks nothing more important than a timekeeping convention? British psychologist Tom Stafford asked this. And not only he. The answer tells us something important about the psychology of motivation, and about what popular theories of self-control miss out.

Today is a very cool and rainy day. I am lazy. Not on the mood to do anything. It's even difficult to write this column. But my motivation gets bigger and bigger while writing. New Year resolutions? Many writers discussed about this topic already. Here are my two cents in.

While celebrating during New Year's night, my family and friends found out, that what we want isn't really straightforward. At bedtime you might want to get up early and go for a run, but when your alarm goes off you find you actually want a lie-in. When exam day comes around you might want to be the kind of person who spent the afternoons studying, but on each of those afternoons you instead wanted to hang out with your friends. Believe me - I heard it many times from my students.

You could see these contradictions as failures of our self-control: impulses for temporary pleasures manage to somehow override our longer-term interests. One fashionable theory of self-control, proposed by Roy Baumeister at Florida State University, is the 'ego-depletion' account. This theory states that self-control is like a muscle. This means you can exhaust it in the short-term – meaning that every temptation you resist makes it more likely that you'll yield to the next temptation, even if it is a temptation to do something entirely different.

A corollary of the 'like a muscle' theory is that in the long term, you can strengthen your willpower with practice. So, for example, Baumeister found that people who were assigned two weeks of trying to keep their back straight whenever possible showed improved willpower when asked back into the lab.

But, and more importantly, that theory doesn't give an explanation why we wait for New Year's Day to begin exerting our self-control. If your willpower is a muscle, you should start building it up as soon as possible, rather than wait for an arbitrary date.

Another explanation may answer these questions, although it isn't as fashionable as ego-depletion. George Ainslie's book 'Breakdown of Will' puts forward a theory of the self and self-control which uses game theory to explain why we have trouble with our impulses, and why our attempts to control them take the form they do. The virgin page of a new calendar marks a clean break between the old and new you - a psychological boundary that may help you keep your resolutions.

And, so to speak with Tom Stafford again, Ainslie gives us an answer to why our resolutions start on 1st January. The date is completely arbitrary, but it provides a clean line between our old and new selves. The practical upshot of the theory is that if you make a resolution, you should formulate it so that at every point in time it is absolutely clear whether you are sticking to it or not. The clear lines are arbitrary, but they help the truce between our competing interests hold.

Let me ask you now,  my dear readers: How about your 2020 resolutions!