How can I help someone who is depressed?

By Cheshire Que

Published Nov 3, 2025 09:50 pm

At A Glance

• What depressed people need is not unsolicited advice, rebuke, insults, and negativity from loved ones. They need empathy, love, patience, and understanding.   When we are struck with unprecedented difficult situations in life, it is normal to feel sad or even grieve over the loss of someone or something. In fact, it is healthy to allow ourselves to feel bad or grieve as part of the process. Depression is another issue. It may be a common mental health condition that is characterized by mood disorders causing sadness, loss of interest in things and activities that one used to enjoy, difficulty in thinking and making decisions, memory loss, changes in appetite, and sleep problems. These symptoms of depression are not merely sadness or grief. They affect one’s daily life, including productivity at work or studies, and even relationships. Symptoms of depression are present every single day for at least two weeks or more.

Depression can affect anyone at any age. There are several types of depression, and the American Psychiatric Association’s “Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition” classified depressive disorders into five types.

The first one is clinical depression, also known as major depressive disorder. This is one of the most common yet also considered the most severe forms of depression. Someone with clinical depression shows signs of sadness, feelings of worthlessness, sleep problems, changes in appetite, and loss of interest in activities for at least two weeks.

Specific forms of major depressive disorders include seasonal affective disorder or seasonal depression that usually occurs during the fall and winter seasons, prenatal and postpartum depression that happens during pregnancy and after giving birth, respectively, and atypical depression, which shows a temporary improvement in mood, as well as other symptoms such as appetite in response to something positive.

The second form of depression is the persistent depressive disorder (PDD). Its symptoms are less severe or milder than clinical depression. However, this type of depression may last for at least two years.

The third type of depression is the disruptive mood dysregulation disorder (DMDD). This is more common among children, which begins at the age of 10. Symptoms include intense irritability and angry outbursts that are frequent and chronic.

The fourth type of depression is the premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or PMDD. Women may typically experience premenstrual syndrome due to hormonal fluctuations during their monthly period. This type of premenstrual syndrome, however, can be accompanied by extreme irritability, depression, and anxiety. Thus, it becomes premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a type of depression. While these symptoms of depression only last a few days during a woman’s menstrual period, they could be so severe that they interfere with her life.

Lastly, there is the depressive disorder due to another medical condition. Changes occur in the body as a result of illnesses. Medical conditions that affect the thyroid, heart, nervous system, and immunity can cause depressive disorders. These medical conditions include hypothyroidism, cancer, cardiovascular disease, Parkinson’s disease, and more.

It is very difficult for an individual to battle depression on their own. Good nutrition, exercise, nature, cognitive behavioral therapy, and medications may help in their healing journey, but what they need more of is a support system. A nurturing environment that will promote healing. If you have someone in your life who is battling depression, you are part of that nurturing environment that individual so badly needs.

While it is challenging to help someone overcome depression, we can all do our part, whether big or small. It all starts with empathy. The ability to look beyond ourselves and see things from another person’s perspective. Oftentimes, we may not truly understand or feel what the depressed individual is going through. Showing empathy, however, is acknowledging their thoughts and feelings without being judgmental. Issues may seem trivial to you, but for a person who is battling depression, what seems trivial to others can be overwhelming to him or her.

A person who is clinically depressed cannot be expected to think and feel like someone who is mentally healthy. He or she is undergoing chemical imbalances in the brain, among others. What depressed people need is not unsolicited advice, rebuke, insults, and negativity from loved ones. They need empathy, love, patience, and understanding.

One of the ways to help someone who is depressed is to stay silent and listen. Encourage them to verbalize their thoughts and feelings. In a world where everything is fast-paced, we strive to solve problems immediately, so we tend to give unsolicited advice. A depressed person needs help in sorting through their thoughts and emotions. They don’t need another practical solution to their problems.

Showing empathy is being there, physically present, in silence. To offer words of encouragement when needed without being condescending and insincere. If you have nothing good to say, just stay silent. Your presence is more than enough to let them know that they are not alone in this battle. You can pray for them or with them, offer God’s word when needed, but never use or quote Bible passages for the sake of spiritual pride or self-righteousness. Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and not to condemn. God’s word encourages, gives hope, and convicts the mistakes but never condemns the person. Neither should you.

When a depressed individual talks about the desire to die, it is important to ask about his or her plan. Suicidal ideations must not be taken lightly. This is a very urgent situation. A person who has a plan on how to commit suicide is likely to try. Therefore, help the person seek professional help right away. Take him or her to the emergency room if you have to, or inform loved ones and never leave the person alone.

All of us are capable of showing empathy. It is a matter of whether or not we have the desire to help someone in need. Let us all do our part in helping people battle depression in our own little ways.

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