By Robert Requintina

This might not be the typical expat blog, written by a German expat, living in the Philippines since 1999. It's different. In English and in German. Check it out! Enjoy reading! Dies mag' nun wirklich nicht der typische Auswandererblog eines Deutschen auf den Philippinen sein. Er soll etwas anders sein. In Englisch und in Deutsch! Viel Spass beim Lesen!






AJapanese woman recently chose to marry her ChatGPT bot. After a painful breakup, 32-year-old Kano began seeking comfort from the platform. Eventually, she personalized her AI companion and named it “Lune Klaus,” describing him as the ideal partner: kind, attentive, and patient. After hundreds of back-and-forth messages, Lune Klaus “proposed.”
Although Japanese law requires marriage to be between two consenting humans, this did not stop Kano from having a ceremony attended by her loved ones. Wearing augmented-reality glasses, she exchanged rings and digital vows with a projected life-size image of her AI groom.
This scenario is part of a rapidly growing trend, with the global AI Girlfriend market expected to reach $9.5 billion by 2028. “AI-lationship” is a new term referring to the intimate attachment that a person has with their AI companion. Many treat the bots as friends they can confide in, but there is also a growing number of people like Kano whose AI-lationships involve imagined marriages, sex, and even pregnancies.
Advocates claim that AI-lationships are not intended to replace human connections but to offer supplemental emotional support. While there are, indeed, documented cases of artificial intelligence improving the well-being of people suffering from social isolation (especially among senior citizens), there are also numerous instances of how AI has fueled people’s harmful delusions.
Recent studies on young people’s AI use suggest another troubling trend. A 2025 study by Common Sense Media found that 31 percent of the surveyed teens felt their conversations with AI companions were “as satisfying or more satisfying” than talking with real friends, and that 33 percent had discussed serious issues with AI instead of real people.
Another report from the Center for Democracy and Technology found that 19 percent of US high schoolers said they or a friend had a romantic AI relationship. While there are no local studies yet, a quick Reddit search shows Filipino teenagers sharing similar experiences, including debates on whether it is considered “cheating” to have an AI companion if you already have a partner.
These numbers matter because adolescence is the stage when templates for handling future relationships are formed. Their heightened sensitivity to reward, combined with an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, makes teenagers more vulnerable to impulsive behavior, intense attachments, and the blurred line between fantasy and reality. While the benefits of AI-lationships for adults may still be open to debate, the danger they pose to young people’s social and emotional development is becoming increasingly difficult to ignore. One famous case is the death of a 14-year-old British teenager after his AI girlfriend encouraged his suicidal ideation.
My column last week (see “The collapse of dialogue (1),” 11/17/25) explored how technology has weakened our ability to have real conversations. Social media has trained us to express ourselves constantly, but often in a performative manner motivated by online engagement. At the same time, becoming accustomed to superficial connections has compromised our ability to navigate the reciprocal nature of face-to-face dialogue. AI has further deepened this shift as more people let chatbots write and reply for them, resulting in polished but hollow communication.
For relationships to deepen, they require a capacity to listen, negotiate differences, and communicate with sincerity. However, as people begin to outsource the cognitive and emotional labor needed in conversations, these relational foundations are also becoming increasingly fragile. In 2023, US Surgeon General Vivek Murthy described the loneliness epidemic not as physically being alone but as a state of mind: “that results from perceived isolation or inadequate meaningful connections, where inadequate refers to the discrepancy or unmet need between an individual’s preferred and actual experience.” In other words, loneliness persists not because people lack interaction, but because they lack relationships that feel real.
The rise of nonhuman relationships reflects this crisis. It shows how deeply people want to connect, yet may not have the skills to start or sustain a genuine relationship. Always-available and always-empathetic chatbots are so appealing because they offer a type of companionship that one can fully control—free from uncertainties that come with relating to another person who carries their own complexities. For young people whose sense of self and social skills are still forming, overexposure to AI interactions risks shaping distorted expectations of intimacy.
Much of the discussion on AI ethics among young people has centered on classroom use and academic integrity. What we urgently need is a deeper examination of the regulatory frameworks and comprehensive education necessary to protect and guide young people in socially engaging with AI in more critically informed and emotionally healthier ways.
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eleanor@shetalksasia.com

Pies occupy a beloved place in kitchens across the world. They are comforting, portable, and infinitely adaptable—appearing on holiday tables, roadside stalls, and bakery shelves in nearly every region. Yet their story is far older and more complex than the golden, flaky pastries we enjoy today.
The history of pies stretches back thousands of years, shaped by necessity, empire, colonization, and creativity. Their evolution reveals not only how people cooked, but how they migrated, traded, and built identity through food.
The earliest versions of pies emerged—not from a desire for dessert, but from practicality. As far back as 6000 to 4000 BCE, ancient peoples discovered that wrapping food in a layer of dough protected the filling during cooking and made food easier to store and transport. Ancient Egyptians wrapped meat, fruits, and honey in thick barley dough. This early “crust” was hard and inedible, functioning like a sealed cooking vessel.
Back then, the focus wasn’t on the pastry but on safeguarding the filling from smoke, fire, and contamination.
Although these dishes were primitive, they introduced the essential pie idea: food enclosed in dough. The Greeks made significant advances by creating doughs thinner and more refined than the Egyptians’ coarse barley mixture. They developed early forms of phyllo, layering thin sheets over savory or sweet fillings. These light, delicate pastries started shifting the idea of pie from pure practicality to a craft of texture and taste.
Meanwhile, the Romans embraced and expanded Greek pastry-making. They developed the “coffyn”—a dough case made from flour, oil, and water. Sometimes edible and sometimes simply a container, it was an early ancestor of the modern crust.

Roman pies carried the flavors of an empire:
• fish and shellfish
• game meats
• dates, figs, nuts
• honey and spices
Their pie recipes appear in “Apicius,” one of the oldest cookbooks. As Roman influence spread across Europe, so did the practice of enclosing food in pastry.
By the Middle Ages, pies had become firmly established in European food culture—but with a different purpose than today. In medieval England and France, thick, sturdy pie shells were essential for food preservation. These crusts could be several centimeters thick and almost rock-hard. They stored meat for days, even weeks, and allowed food to be transported long distances. In fact, most diners discarded the crust and ate only the filling.
At the same time, pies became the centerpieces of grand banquets. Wealthy households created large pies filled with layers of meats, spices, and sometimes theatrical surprises—live birds or small animals that would fly or scurry out when the pie was cut. This tradition inspired the nursery rhyme “Sing a Song of Sixpence.”
By the 1500s and 1600s, the pie underwent a transformation. European bakers began using butter and lard, creating tender, flaky crusts meant to be enjoyed rather than discarded. Fruit pies became increasingly popular, especially in England, where apples, berries, and stone fruits were abundant.
The first printed recipe resembling modern apple pie appeared in 1545, signaling the arrival of pies as comfort food. Pies traveled to the Americas with European settlers, who relied on them as an efficient, portable, and economical way to feed families.

When colonists arrived, they encountered ingredients unfamiliar in Europe but perfectly suited to pies. These included pumpkins, cranberries, wild berries, maple sugar, and sweet potatoes.
And this is where our story of the kamote, or sweet potato pie, begins, on the Thanksgiving menu.
Thanksgiving has slowly started to be celebrated in many Filipino households in the last 15 years or so. Growing up, I viewed Thanksgiving as something distant, celebrated only in America. In the advent of globalization, social media, and a generation of middle-aged Filipinos who spent time in America—either as students or balikbayans—now rooted in the Philippines, Thanksgiving is now recognized in many places.
In fact, hotels, restaurants, and private caterers now offer ready-to-serve turkeys for the occasion.
I, for one, started celebrating Thanksgiving at home when I got married. My husband lived in the U.S for a long time, having moved there at 11 years old. Thanksgiving was a big holiday that he had been used to celebrating. It is not part of our family’s tradition to celebrate it in November.
Since I was raised here in the Philippines, I had to learn how to make a turkey with all its sides. In my research, I came across a “yam pie,” which sounded interesting. I first made this kamote pie topped with marshmallows after spending Thanksgiving with my American friends, where they made something similar. This pie is much easier than a regular pie dish, as it involves no pie crust.
The recipe I created is so easy and delicious that I now serve it at other times of the year. However, its presence at our Thanksgiving table completes this family tradition that has now become our own.

Ingredients
6 whole kamote—preferably orange, boiled, and peeled
¼ cup room temperature butter
¼ cup brown sugar
1 cup almond milk
1 bag or 5 cups marshmallows
Procedure
1. Peel and boil the kamote.
2. Dice them into small pieces and place them in a bowl.
3. Add butter and sugar, and mash until smooth.
4. Add almond milk to bring it to a smoother consistency.
5. Pour the mixture into a pie or baking dish.
6. Arrange the marshmallows on top.
7. Bake for 3 to 5 minutes at 250 degrees Celsius, making sure the top is slightly browned.
Schnee, Eis, spiegelglatte Straßen: Bundesweit kam es zu zahlreichen Unfällen. In Leipzig krachte ein Autofahrer mit seinem Mercedes gegen einen Baum und wurde eingeklemmt
Hannes
Kohlmaier
Nach dem Schnee-Wochenende kommt der Eis-Hammer. Samstag zeigte der Winter vielerorts noch sein schönstes Gesicht. Doch schon in der Nacht zu Sonntag wurde es rutschig. Es gab bundesweit zahlreiche schwere Unfälle auf spiegelglatten Straßen.
Klimatologe Karsten Brandt hatte bereits am Samstag gegenüber BILD vorausgesagt: „Es kann heftig glatt werden. Da kommt eine Mischung aus Schnee und Regen auf uns zu.“
Eine Eisregen-Walze trifft Deutschland – am Sonntagmittag und am frühen Nachmittag in Nordrhein-Westfalen, Niedersachsen, Rheinland-Pfalz bis Hessen. Nachmittags ist dann Baden-Württemberg betroffen, vor allem die Schwäbische Alb und der Schwarzwald.
Samstag zeigte sich der Winter mit viel Sonne, wie hier auf dem Fichtelberg (im Hintergrund eine Station des Deutschen Wetterdienstes). Der Sonntag wird vielerorts ungemütlich
Schon in der Nacht zu Sonntag krachte es auf spiegelglatten Straßen: Auf der B45 zwischen Zuzenhausen und Hoffenheim (Baden-Württemberg) verlor der Fahrer eines VW-Golf GTI trotz Winterreifen die Kontrolle über sein Auto. Der Wagen überschlug sich, landete auf der Seite. Alle drei Insassen kamen verletzt in Kliniken.
Der Glätte-Unfall bei Hoffenheim: Drei Insassen im VW Golf GTI wurden verletzt
Auch in Leipzig (Sachsen) gab es einen schweren Eis-Unfall. Ein 19-Jähriger fuhr über glattes Kopfsteinpflaster und verlor nach ersten Erkenntnissen vermutlich wegen der Glätte und zu hoher Geschwindigkeit die Kontrolle über seinen Mercedes. Der Wagen schoss nach rechts von der Fahrbahn, prallte frontal gegen einen Beton-Laternenmast, kippte auf die Seite und krachte anschließend noch gegen einen Baum. Der Fahrer wurde eingeklemmt und schwer verletzt.
Ein junger Autofahrer (19) kam in Leipzig mit seinem Mercedes auf spiegelglatter Straße von der Fahrbahn ab. Rettungskräfte mussten ihn aus dem Wrack schneiden
Auch eine Probefahrt bei Hochdorf (Baden-Württemberg) endete in einer Katastrophe: Auf der K7564 kam ein Mann (59) mit einem neuen Porsche auf Glatteis in einer Linkskurve ins Schleudern und krachte gegen einen Baum. Er und sein Sohn (31) wurden leicht verletzt. Der Luxus-Sportwagen ist nach dem Unfall Schrott – 200.000 Euro Sachschaden!