What isn't the best way to live?

 

Chris

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Writer at Medium The Company (2021–present)

• Working a 9–5 that is sucking your soul dry while providing for a family you can’t stand.
• Getting married because it’s what “society” and family does.
• Having a kid, when you have no idea what self respect, self love and self worth are, all while believing you can raise a healthy minded child with a fighting chance. Leave a kid out of your life until you fix your shit.
• Staying married/committed out of fear. You’d be surprised what you’re capable of when you break free.
• Surrounding yourself with a bunch of “friends.” Many have acquaintances, not friends. Don’t confuse the two. Friends are rare, acquaintances are every where.
• Serial dating making good hearted people believe you love them because you are too fucked up yourself to take care of your shit before the manipulation begins.
• Accumulating “material” things. While there is nothing wrong with it, many try to keep up with the “Jones’s” next door, or trying to fill a hole the sized of Grand Canyon in a life of no purpose. Debt will ensue.
• Following the heard. Doing what everyone else does. When someone calls you crazy, that’s a good thing in my opinion. Know the difference between actually insanity, and living a life others don’t approve of but offer unwanted advice.
• Marriage. I mean, maybe it works for some, but looking at the statistics, and friends, families and strangers, it isn’t what it’s cracked up to be.
• Not doing things that scare you. When you fear something that is something new, and has uncertainty is what you need to do. In fear change happens, and in uncertainty is where trust begins, with yourself.
• Believing words and the “social” media life. Shallowness, and superficiality runs rampant in this world of chaos. Watch actions, ignore words. Unless the action is running side by side with a moving mouth.
• Thinking age is holding you back. I’m 50 freaking years old living out of my car, not by necessity, but by choice. Will it work? Will I find what I’m looking for within myself? Who the fuck knows. But what I do know is what I was doing, wasn’t working.