Okay, let’s start with the first step: how to meet and start dating a Filipina.
My advice is always for guys to go to the Philippines. Unless you know the people in your closest Filipino community, your best bet is to actually travel to the country and put yourself in a position to meet the local ladies. Online dating will only take you so far.
Next, you have to look past the stereotypes. Relying on what you know from the internet or from popular media will not help you when you realize that not all Filipinas are the same. Yes, having general knowledge will give you a place to start, but successfully dating a Filipina means getting to know that specific woman based on who she is and not just on her being from a certain country.
So, how do you find a Filipina wife?
- Go to the Philippines.
- If you want to do online dating first, make sure to avoid scammers.
- Go beyond stereotypes.
Marrying a Filipina is just an extension of all that. It also means dealing with the reality of having a Filipina wife (something even my husband took years to truly grasp! haha).
Key things to keep in mind:
- Family is VERY IMPORTANT for Filipinas. If you want to marry a woman from the Philippines, prepare to have a huge (and often busybody) family.
- If she wants to settle down in the Philippines, make sure you’re comfortable with the idea of living in the country.
- If she’s open to moving to your home country, make sure you’re prepared to help her adjust.
- As with any interracial marriage, you need to find a way to deal with the cultural differences (especially in things like lifestyle, food, and long-term goals).
- Even though Filipinos are good at English, the language barrier can still surprise you even years into your relationship.
- If you’re planning to have kids, your wife being a Filipina will also be a HUGE factor. Be prepared for that too.
Sharing here a photo of me (Filipina) and my husband (American) during our second wedding, and another photo of a former client (Danny, from Singapore) with his wife Marilyn (also a Filipina):
